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The Cost of Taking Your Business Online

Posted on May 20, 2017 in Blog, Business Advice, General, Joy & Happiness, Personal Development, Self-Care | 4 comments

 

I’ve been reflecting on the 10 days I spent in Denver for our Live Well Training Week for my LW and SexyFit™ Coaches.

Guess what the #1 AHA / learning / favorite thing of the whole week long training was? From almost all participants, including me?

The in person connection.

It wasn’t the awesome business and lifestyle training :)  It wasn’t the health, entrepreneur or personal development training. It wasn’t even the SexyFit™ Dance Classes (although that came a close second – music to my ears).

It was the connection and interaction that we all experienced during the 10 days.

So interesting and thought provoking.

Why?  6 years ago I moved my 80% in person business, to an 80% online business. This was a HUGE step in creating a life I loved, as I had always dreamed of living around the world and being able to work from anywhere…from just my laptop.

Doing this meant that my programs and trainings were now 80% online and completely scalable. It meant that all my 1×1 coaching was done over the phone or Skype.  It meant that the 20% remaining ( Create A Life You Love Retreats, teaching SexyFit™ Dance and running 1-2 trainings per year ) were basically the only things I did in person.

And I’m SO glad I did it.  I’ve been able to work with many more people than was ever possible previously. I’ve been able to live in unique places, experience new things and evolve. And I love running a business online because it’s the ultimate freedom – working hard, but for myself, on my own terms.

However, it came with a cost:  A loss of connection with real people, in real time, in person.

Don’t get me wrong – I still love being an online entrepreneur and wouldn’t trade it for anything. But ironically, I’ve noticed that the more online I’ve gone and the more freedom I’ve created for myself, the less real and deep connection I’ve fostered.

This may seem very obvious to you, especially because we know Facebook, Instagram and being glued to our phones or laptops all day, isn’t the answer for a fulfilling and soulful life.

But I mean something more than that.  I mean that even when you think you’re living a life you love, creating more freedom and independence, be mindful not to create so much freedom, as to no longer have real connection.

Freedom
+
Connection

We need both.

Without freedom (one of my highest values), I feel suffocated. But without connection, I feel unfulfilled. UN-soulful.

Since I’ve been sharing things that I believe have contributed to my feeling irritable and bitchy for the past year, I suspect a lack of deeper connection with people IN PERSON has been a part of these feelings.

So, on our US trip for the past month to Laguna Beach – Denver – Miami, I’ve been making a concerted effort to connect and catch up with old friends. And damn, it’s felt good 😃

Thank you.

To every single one of my friends, colleagues and partners that have welcomed me back into your life. THANK YOU for reminding me how how important in person connection is and how good it feels to spend time in person, not just through Facetime and Voxer.

Freedom
+
Connection

How much do you need of both in your own life?

Action Steps:

Do you resonate with this blog?  Have you moved your business more online, only to feel less connected to others?  What are ways that can or have created both more freedom and more connection in your own life?

Share here – the best insights happen in the comments when we share our ideas and strategies. I personally read every single comment and and always respond – I love to hear.

Carmen Marshall
 

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Bitchy For A Year

Posted on Apr 15, 2017 in Blog, Business Advice, General, Joy & Happiness, Personal Development, Self-Care, Stress Reduction | 0 comments

 

I’ve been irritable for over a year.

There are so many reasons that I could use to legitimize and explain-away my crankiness – the state of the world, starting two new companies, challenges in business and life, moving, buying a house, new relationship, reinvention of self…

But bottom line, I’m just cranky.

And, it’s not how, or who I want to be. I know that stress wreaks absolute havoc on my health, weight (hello 8lbs from nowhere) and immune system, as well as my confidence, motivation and relationships. And most importantly, I don’t like how I feel or the energy I’m giving out. It’s not how I want to experience life – or how I want people to experience me.

So, over the next few blogs, I want to share some of the ways that stress has affected me, and what I’ve been doing about it. Some are little things, some are bigger things. But all are things that move me away from being loving and happy, and result in my being resistant, tense…and, well, bitchy.

Assuming the Worst

One of the things I’ve noticed over this past year is that I assume the worst. I didn’t used to be like that, but I definitely have been lately.

There are many reasons why we assume. I personally think that three of the biggest reasons in today’s world are: (1) we live in an ever-increasing fast paced culture, (2) we have minimal bandwidth and are emotionally raw from being constantly stressed, and (3) our brain tries to help and takes shortcuts (assumes), in an effort to give us more time.

But assuming exacerbates everything and not only creates more work for me (un-doing the damage I create when I assume incorrectly) but it also creates more resistance and tension in my body.

Why? Because typically, I’m not assuming the best case scenario, I’m assuming the worst.

It’s natural, and understandable, but it doesn’t have the effect I want – I end up being even more tense and frustrated, which doesn’t help anything.

And it definitely doesn’t support living a life I love.

I’ve noticed that I assume:

  • Anytime I’m rushing. For example – when I speed-read an email on my iPhone, I can completely misinterpret the whole dialogue.
  • In conversations, I quickly jump to conclusions, without asking questions and finding out all the facts (and feelings).
  •  When I’ve had a negative past experience. I’m already tense and resistant state even before I begin a conversation – call centers, banks, business meetings having to do with finances, and things that I feel like I’ve been really clear about, but are showing up again.

Can you relate to any of the above?

So what can we do – besides going to live on an idyllic island in the south pacific with no news, no stress and no challenges?

 

What I’ve been doing that helps:

 

1. S….l…o…w…i…n…g….D…o…w….n

I’ve been deliberately slowing down for 1-2 minutes, 3x’s per day so my body can decompress; so I’m not consistently in fight or flight mode. We’ve got to make time to slow down in today’s world. The faster we go, the more information we assault our senses with, the more tension we create in our body. Slowing down helps our body return to it’s natural state of resiliency and resourcefulness. My go to’s: lying down on my bed, putting on music, dancing, going for a quick walk, taking a shower, getting out in nature and hugging my partner and cats.

2. Reading emails and texts slowly

and with my full attention. No speed reading!

3. Asking questions

to understand the whole picture, before speaking. Seeking first to
understand (cliches are cliches because they are so true) before judging, deciding or jumping in.

4. Trying to assume the BEST case scenario first

This puts me into a receptive, loving space (where magical things can actually happen!) It doesn’t mean that I’m naive or will step over anything I need to address. But it does mean that I’m in a more receptive place – for the actual reality of what is being said, and a solution.

5. Assuming the person is on my side, is a good person, and/or has had a stressful day

(in that case, extra compassion and kindness from me would actually hugely help them), as it relates to the situation. I remember a mentor once said, “if you get asked a question that seems like someone is attacking you, assume that they are a GOOD person just asking questions, seeking to understand – and respond from that place.

6. Breathing

Deeply. A few times. Then I respond.

7. Being Curious

I learned this from a Somatic (body focused) Coach who was all about being curious about everything, rather than making an immediate judgment or decision. (I’m still working on this one as I’m type A and tend to make decisions and judgements quickly, rather than being curious 😃 ) However when I do it, it works.

8. Keeping my vibration high

Music, dance, exercise, getting outside, pets, connection with my partner, contribution, gratitude are all things that help keep my vibration high and counter-act negativity. They help me assume the best scenario, because I’m happy, not maxed out. The happier I am, the more naturally assume all is good around me. It all, ALL starts with us.

9. Self-Care

For me, that means quiet time on my own, puttering, shopping at Lululemon (don’t ask me why, but it soothes my soul), making raw food etc. Because, when we’re sourced, everything works better. Oxygen mask on first. Yes, that massage is always necessary.

10. Addressing my own worries, procrastination and personal challenges

so that I’m not projecting my frustrations on someone else (how many times has the poor bank call center rep borne the brunt of my wrath simply b/c I’m frustrated about additional things).

11. Checking in on my feelings

and not judging myself for feeling the way I do. What am I feeling right now?  I’m feeling irritated? That’s ok. I’m feeling angry and frustrated? Why is that? Oh, because of “xyz” and it’s okay. This is one of the most therapeutic things we can do – NAME the feeling, ask why we’re feeling that way and tell ourselves it’s okay to feel that way. Usually the feeling dissipates, or at least lessens because I’ve allowed it.

Of course, we can, and should, always remove ourselves from situations and environments that are causing us unnecessary stress or harm. We should speak up and out about what we feel strongly.

But there are times in life that simply are more stressful, situations I don’t want to remove myself from and worldwide events that keep happening, whether I want them to or not. And even when I need to speak up and speak strongly, I can do it from a grounded place of love and strength, not heated anger and frustration.

Finding soulful strategies for those moments, that help us feel sourced, strong and loving, not only help our health, vibration and how we feel, but it also allows for more magic to happen in any given moment. And it makes us feel GOOD – who doesn’t want to feel grounded, strong, loving, clear and calm, and able to respond to life and others in that way?

  • Can you relate? Have you experienced this yourself? Have you been more irritable lately, assuming the worst, and jumping to conclusions?
  • When do you assume? Are there patterns for you?
  • What strategies work for you?

As always, I love, love, love to hear from you. The BEST conversation happens under the blog from your comments, questions and feedback. Comment here.

Love, love, love,

Carmen Marshall

PS I pulled this from some old notes on a book I love – all 4 points are such great reminders and put the body into a non-resistant, more loving state just by reading them, don’t you think?

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Miguel Ruiz

1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
4. Always do your best.

 

 

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Why You Can’t Just “Fake It ‘Til You Make It”

Posted on Mar 18, 2017 in Blog, Business Advice, General, Health & Nutrition, Joy & Happiness, Manifesting, Personal Development | 3 comments

Weekly Action Plan Coaching with Carmen Marshall

We’ve all heard it before, but today I want to re-frame the phrase “fake it ’til you make it” into something you can actually use in business and in life because we all know deep down that faking it just feels inauthentic.

Instead of actually faking it, there’s a better way to build confidence and success so that you can see and feel changes you want to experience in your life by asking yourself a few simple, yet profound questions. Watch + listen more in this weeks’ vlog below.

 

Why You Can’t Just “Fake It ‘Till You Make It + 3 Questions Guaranteed To Change Your Life

I love to create space for all of us to empower each other to do more of what we love, so over to you!

Have you used any of these 3 questions before? Comment below as all of the best ah-ha’s and connection happens as we share our ideas :-)

PS: The book I reference is ‘Anam Cara’ by John O’Donohue.

Lots of Love,
Carmen Marshall

 

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14 Favorite Apps For Business + Lifestyle: Part 2

Posted on Mar 4, 2017 in Blog, Business Advice, General, Personal Development | 7 comments


 
Here it is – Part 2 of my Favorite Apps for Business + Lifestyle! If you didn’t catch Part 1, you can go here.

Check out the video below where I show you the last 7 of my favorite apps.
 

Video Part 2: 7 More Apps I Love For Business + Lifestyle

 

 
Over to you! Post any questions below and I’d love to hear what your favorite apps are, too!

Lots of Love,
Carmen Marshall

 

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14 Favorite Apps For Business + Lifestyle: Part 1

Posted on Feb 18, 2017 in Blog, Business Advice, General, Health & Nutrition, Personal Development | 11 comments

I’ve been a self-employed entrepreneur since the age of 27, so one of the questions I get asked all the time is “what do you use in your business to stay organized?” or “how do you keep your personal + business life separate?”

The truth is, I love my work so much that personal and business tend to mix. Don’t get me wrong, I definitely take time off and in order to not get overwhelmed or bogged down, I am really strict about self-care, exercise, and some down time/being in nature.

But, I do have some apps and programs that make my personal and business life much more streamlined and simplified. Check out the video where I show you the first 7 of my favorite apps, and then I’ll share the rest in the next blog; so stay tuned.

Video Part 1: 7 Favorite Apps For Business + Lifestyle

Over to you! Are there any I’m missing? Do you use other apps you just LOVE that simplify your life? Share in the comments below; I’m sure there are other entrepreneurs out there that would love to hear all of your tips, too!

Lots of Love,
Carmen Marshall

 

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Dance To Create A Life You Love

Posted on Nov 13, 2015 in Business Advice, Exercise & Fitness, General, Joy & Happiness, Manifesting | 2 comments

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“We should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once.
― Friedrich Nietzsche

Create A Life You Love™ is all about intentional life design and co-creating with the universe in the areas of:

  • Purpose
  • Health + Wellness
  • Career / Business + Money
  • Passions + Creativity
  • Relationships
  • Personal Development
  • Lifestyle + Adventure
  • Spirituality

So what’s Dance got to do with intentional life design??

Well, one of the keys to manifesting — in addition to clarity + action — is being in a state of non-resistance / love, so that YOU are not the one blocking the flow of what you want.

So that YOU are not the obstacle.

Quick Review: Intention + Attention + No Tension* (i.e. Clarity + Action + Non-resistance/Love) = Easeful Manifesting.  For my video that more thoroughly explains The Power of Non-Resistance/ Love, click here.

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Feeling Joy.  Being Happy.  Feeling Alive.  And besides some of my other favorite ways of feeling joy right now (gratitude, loving connection and petting CATS :)) dance is one of the quickest ways to get happy. And to feel utterly amazing about yourself, life and everyone around you – which just helps everything work.

That’s why Create A Life You Love™ has Dance at the core – because Dance has the ability to shift our state so quickly AND to increase the speed of manifesting.

3 Ways Dance Increases the Speed of Manifesting

1. Dance Instantly Raises Your Vibration

Moving your body, breathing more fully, dancing to great music, connecting with others on the dance floor – there is almost nothing that can shift you so quickly, into an open-hearted, happy state. When you hear a song you love on the radio or grocery store or dance class, your body can’t help but want to move – it puts a smile on your face and through every cell. One of the best ways to shift a bad mood, is simply to dance – you just can’t feel negative when you hear a song like this and let your body get up and dance to it.

Try it right now. Click here and see if you just want to get up and dance :)

2. Dance Connects You To Your Essence

“To Dance is to be out of yourself.  Larger, more beautiful, more powerful.” ~Agnes De Mille

The closer we can get to our essence – who we really are – the more authentic, real and self-expressed we feel. And when we do anything from our essence, from the center of who we really are, the universe responds. It wants us be fully ourselves. And it feels so good when we allow ourselves to really be who are we — and to be seen for who we really are.

It’s no mistake that I met my partner at Ecstatic Dance. It’s no mistake that that 80% of my clients and coaches have come from my dance classes or have been a connection from someone who came to my dance classes, workshops or retreats.

Our true essence – the most joyful, open to possibility in life, powerful, sensual, embodied, vibrant, loving and connective part of us – comes out in dance. This helps you feel GREAT in the moment, but you also literally become a magnet for what you want in relationships, business and life – because energetically you are being the most real and true you.

3. Dance Helps You Stop Trying To Be Perfect

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referring to dances that anyone can do and that really encourage you to let go and move from your heart instead of your head: SexyFit™ Dance, Free Dance, Zumba, Ecstatic Dance, NIA, Brazilian Zouk and just madly dancing in your living room :) They’re not about perfection. They’re about how it FEELS rather than how it LOOKS. They’re about having fun, expressing yourself, letting go and feeling connected to your dance partner.

And this has a direct impact on how we live our lives.

Why is this important? Our life improves 1000x’s over when we stop caring what people think. When we stop putting more value on how we look to others, rather than how we feel to ourselves. When we stop living how others think we should live our lives. If this is all dance did for anyone, it would be enough.

Dancing from your heart helps you forget about looking good and instead focuses you on just having fun in and with your own body. Ironically, this makes you an even better dancer. I bring free dance into every dance session I teach as it’s the quickest way to face your fears, lose your inhibitions and find your own essence and style. It’s often the hardest thing for people to do in a dance class initially, and then their favorite part of the class.

And in the same way, manifestation requires that you let go. Yes, you get very clear on what you want and take action, but skillful manifestation requires not being attached to HOW it looks or HOW it comes to you.

Skillful manifesting also puts priority on feeling good along the journey. “The journey has to feel like the destination you want” ~ Abraham Hicks. The is exactly the feeling you experience when you let go and enjoy dancing – specifically when you’re not focused on perfection or “looking good”.

Dance has been one of the most important things in my life for:

1. Feeling joy now + raising my vibration
2. Feeling self-expressed, in my essence and who I truly am
3. Letting go of the idea that I need to be perfect to be loved, respected or valued
4. Focusing on having fun and enjoying the moment/journey
5. Learning that how I FEEL is much more important than how it LOOKS
6. Meeting my partner :)
7. Growing my business, client base and brand
8. Living my life for me, not for other people
9. Feeling the Fear & Doing It Anyways
10. Creating + Living A Life I Love

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Dance teaches us so many lessons about life and manifesting – and those lessons naturally becomes part of our being. Your muscle memory gets stronger every time you dance, you have more fun, are more relaxed, more yourself – and you’ve done it all through something that is pleasureful, embodied and something we’ve done since the beginning of time.

Intentionally creating and living a life we love is one of the most important things we can do. And Dance makes it 100x’s more easy and enjoyable.

Over to you – I would LOVE to hear from you.  Your comments always inspire me and help others:

  • Why do YOU dance?
  • What has dance done for you? How has it helped you in your life?
  • Are you inspired to take a dance class after reading this? Why, What Kind and By When?

PS We’re headed to Australia for 3 months of studying Brazilian Zouk with 2 teachers I’ve wanted to learn with for ages. I’m so, so excited about this as it’s been on my CALYL – Do The Crazy Thing List for 2 years!  Then we’ll be back in Bali in March and I’ll be teaching SexyFit™ Dance + Brazilian Zouk and of course always, Create A Life You Love™. Then we’re off to Thailand for our Activating Grace – A Dance, Sound Healing, Breathwork + Life Coaching Retreat in June.

I hope to dance with you somewhere in the world in the next 6 months!

See you in the comments below

*The original “Intention + Attention + No Tension” phrase comes from one of my favorite books, The Passion Test, by Janet Attwood.

Lots of love,

Carmen Marshall
 
 

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The State Of Non-Resistance + The Power Of Love

Posted on Apr 3, 2015 in Business Advice, Exercise & Fitness, General, Joy & Happiness, Manifesting, Personal Development, Self-Care, Stress Reduction | 14 comments

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Hello Beautiful Friends!

 
Thank you so much for all of your comments in last week’s video on my blog and YouTube (watch: “How To Shake A Bad Mood”).

When we are in stressful or frustrating situations, we tend to become really resistant to EVERYTHING in life. Thus, making manifesting, creating, and living the life we want to seem like it’s not working or that it’s more difficult than it should be. So, we need to consciously practice being in a state of non-resistance. And then take it one step further, and be in a loving state.

This week’s video blog is really an explanation in response to all of those questions into 1 solution or strategy to try. It’s a little longer this week, but really worth your time (I hope!).
 

How do you know if you are in a resistant state?

1. If things aren’t flowing
2. If you’re irritable, tense, mad at different people
3. If you’re not happy

Today, I’m talking to you about my personal experiences and ways I’ve put this strategy into practice, and then, what happens when you do. It’s truly amazing because when we are able to shift inside – shift our mood, vibration, and energy – magic happens.

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How To Shake A Bad Mood

Posted on Mar 28, 2015 in General, Joy & Happiness, Personal Development, Stress Reduction | 7 comments

 

How To Shake A Bad Mood | Create a life you love with Carmen Marshall

Hello beautiful Create A Life You Love™ friends!

I’ve wanted to shake things up a bit with my blog and really find a way to give you more value, without the internet noise (you know what I’m talking about, right?)

So, you’ll see more short, video snippets from me with real-life advice and actionable tips to implement and help you gravitate more towards Creating A Life You Love™.

Today’s video comes from a question from a friend of mine that I think you’ll be able to relate to AND put this advice to use right away.

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Looking Back To Move Forward…

Posted on Dec 20, 2014 in Business Advice, General, Joy & Happiness, Manifesting, Personal Development | 3 comments

 

new year 2015 written in sand

I’m a huge advocate of taking timing, slowing down and being intentional about life – especially during powerful times like the new moon and the New Year.   Here is a personal ritual that I do between Christmas and New Year’s Day.  I’ve done this for the past 9 years and it’s not only extremely powerful, but one of my favorite things to do.

Look Back To Move Forward…

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Making Soulful + Smart Decisions

Posted on Jul 19, 2014 in Business Advice, General, Joy & Happiness, Manifesting, Personal Development | 2 comments

Carmen Marshall

Is there an area in your life that you can’t quite figure out?

Are you running a zillion scenarios around in your mind and stressing yourself out? And, instead of finding answers, are you only succeeding in winding yourself up and creating a whole bunch of RESISTANCE in your life?

That’s so me. I can completely WIND myself up :))

Keep Reading…

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