One Life To Live
I’ve had some big decisions to make lately. Mostly around business – whether to take the risk and make the leap.
Here’s what I’ve been hearing in my head:
- It’s too risky
- I’m too old
- Why not just stay with what I’m doing?
- I’m going to have to work really hard (and I’ve worked hard for most of my life)
- What if it isn’t profitable?
- More importantly, what if it takes too much time, energy and money TO make it profitable?
- What if I lose all my money trying to make it work?
Do you have any of those thoughts in your head about any of your dreams? Are they stopping you taking the leap? Stopping you from creating a life you love and living a more SOUL-ful life?
YES, was my answer.
But yesterday something shifted. I woke up and had this realization:
You know, I’ve only got one life (maybe more, if you believe in reincarnation, but no one really knows for sure – so I’m acting as if I only have one life to live).
One life to live
I really let that sink in. Knowing that, would I be satisfied with staying with the status quo and not going after a big dream of mine?
Which would I rather when I’m 90 years old: Staying with what I have now (playing safe, no risk), but always wishing I had of gone after one of my important dreams? OR, would I be more proud of myself and feel more fulfilled, if I went after an important dream….even if I failed?
In this context, my long list of noisy fears, got pushed into the backseat, as I remembered that for me, going after a dream is more important than possibly failing at it. And that I have an even bigger, more important fear: Not fully living my life and looking back with regret with things I didn’t attempt to do.
Now, I’m not talking about silly risks – investing without doing a business plan, not doing your research, not being prepared to do the work or going after something that really isn’t possible. ie I would love to be the next Shakira singer, song writer and dancer – but that isn’t going to happen :) What I am talking about is being pulled forward by your dreams, rather than held back by self-limiting fears.
- What is one dream that you can’t stop thinking about?
- What the fears (negative voices) that you hear in your head? Write them ALL down, right now.
- Are they TRUE?
- Who do you know that is a good example of the exact opposite of one of your fears? For example, if you think you’re too old – is that true and who do you know what accomplished something similar at your age or older?
- How will you feel and what will be the consequences if you DON’T go after your dream?
- How will you feel and what will be the results if you DO go after your dream?
- Where can you get advice, coaching, mentoring to help you navigate any self-limiting fears and then also help you achieve your dream?*
*Everything is “figure-outable” – especially if you apply desire, focus, mentorship, hard work, and love.
And so, I’m going forward with one of my big dreams. It doesn’t mean that I don’t feel sacred or worried at times – that’s normal with any risk, even a calculated one. My fears will still be in the back of my mind.
But I’ll act in spite of fear.
I’ll keep choosing to be pulled forward by my aspirations, rather than held back by my fears.
And…I think my 90 year old self will approve :)
Over to you! Did this resonate? What negative voices do you hear in your head? How do you reframe them? Do you have a story of feeling your fear and doing it anyways?
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Lots of love,
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